Expecting the death of a loved one doesn't make it any easier. You have to watch them struggle through pain while still trying so hard to appear strong. In a way, the end is a relief: they can finally be peaceful and not have to deal with medicine, doctors, procedures, side effects and a body that has betrayed them.
Despite the grief, the sorrow, the tears that sometimes flow steadily at the slightest provocation, we remember the good times. Death gives us a chance to honor and celebrate the lives of our loved ones and reflect upon the memories we have shared with them.
Ava will not remember these times with "Papa," but we have pictures and stories to share with her when she's older. We will tell her that she liked Papa immediately; that when she was an infant, she completely relaxed in his arms and never cried if he was holding her. We'll show her pictures of the two of them on his scooter, riding around the house. She will know that he was a special person in her life and that he loved her so much.
Losing a loved one is a really hard thing to go through, but it gives us a chance to celebrate life. It helps us appreciate those around us even more and to cherish the moments we have with them. Ava reminds us of this every day as she lives for the present and enjoys simple things, like blowing bubbles, riding her tricycle, taking walks and just being outside in the fresh air with her mama and dada.
We are working through our feelings and taking it day by day...and looking to Ava for a smile, a laugh, a simple gesture to help us cope. She shows us how to celebrate life.
This was a nice post. I thought I commented earlier, but apparently it did not post. Sorry about all your losses. Hope you are all doing okay.
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